Mindfulness – Focusing the Attention of the Mind Into the Present Moment

Alright. Today’s topic for this week is a practice called “Mindfulness”. The key to being mindful is to focus the attention of the mind into the present moment. So if presently you are listening to this message, you focus your mind entirely into the message.

Mindfulness then, would be the practice of ignoring any other distractions that might come in while you are paying attention, either listening to or reading this particular message. If you were to practice mindfulness while you are falling asleep, you would fall asleep much faster. If you were to practice mindfulness maybe while doing something that is pleasurable to you, you will find much more pleasure in it. Practicing mindfulness while smelling a cup of tea, you will find that you probably love the aroma and when you taste it, it will taste differently than the aroma that you were loving. The same is true of food.

So when we are mindful and we focus our attention into one activity, it changes the experience. Sometimes you can use this say for an addiction. Maybe you really like your beer or something and you think about the beer and something begins to transform. There is a physical reaction. Your stress hormones begin to change; a variety of things happen.

Well, just focus your mindfulness 100%. It might be ice cream you are craving, whatever it is, and then go ahead and feel it, smell it, focus your mind entirely on it, not the result that you are expecting like “I’ll feel relaxed” or “I’ll feel comforted” or “I’ll be distracted from my real emotions”. Whatever else is going on.

Be mindful 100% with that item of your addiction. It may be drugs, sex, food, alcohol, whatever it is and stay with it and you will find that because you are mindfully attentive, it is not producing the normal side effect that you are used to. Oftentimes substituting with something very simple like taking some trace colloidal minerals, take a mineral supplement, and maybe a little Vitamin C or Ester C with it and maybe some MSM. Take that instead and some water and wait. And then if it comes back again, focus mindfulness into that whatever it is and see if anything has changed.

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Business Negotiation Strategy in Each Stage

Business negotiation strategy has a wide range. However, there are different strategies in each stage according to the practice.

2.3.1 The strategy of the first phase
a. Consensus-style
Apply: there is no business between the two sides before; their strength are close for the first contact.
Practice: he uses of diplomatic language, and chooses a neutral topic, with the attitude of respect for each other, neither overbearing nor servile.

b. Frank style
Apply: the two sides had business dealings before, and a better understanding of each other. Their relations are very good; and strength is less than the other negotiators.
Practice: he gives a sincere, passionate talk about the friendly and cooperative relations in the past, and frankly takes the views of one’s own statements as well as the expectations of each other; and frankly show one’s own weaknesses

c. Carefully opening ceremony
Apply: the negotiating parties have had business dealings over the past but the other side had not a satisfactory performance
Practice: he expresses regret that the inadequacies of the other party in the past and hope that they can change this situation through this cooperation. In no hurry to reduce the relationship, he uses of a courtesy question to check each other’s attitudes and thoughts.

d. Start-style attack
Apply: the other side is condescending, and has the tendency to force and do not respect one’s own side
Practice: he should be rational and advantage, and to hit the key issues and he can not be too aggressive, to change their practices in a right time.

2.3.2 The strategy of the pricing stage
First, prices starting point strategy

a. suspended construction of the high-profile (Continental quote)
It refers to a negotiation strategy that a seller makes a higher price than the actual requirements in the starting point and bargains with the opponent and makes concessions to reach an agreement.
Do: outcry hard; make concessions slowly
Methods to deal with: ask for basis of quotation or counter-offer.

b. throw the ball down (Japanese-style quotations)
It refers to a negotiation strategy that first of all the seller propose a lower starting point than actual requirements of its own for negotiations in order to attract each other, trying to beat the opponent who take part in the competition, and then take real negotiations with the buyer who be tempted to hook, force them to make concessions to reach their own purpose.
Methods to deal with: first, the buyers compare and calculate the contents of the bid of each other with other vendors’, and straightforward to raise objections. Second, he is not tempted by the small profit of the other side.
Second, division pricing strategy
Divisor is commodity prices and dividend is that quantity of goods or the use of time. It comes up with a very small price. So buyers feel price cheap and low.
Third, adder pricing strategy
In business negotiations, sometimes it is afraid that high prices offered will scare customers. The price had gradually broken down into several levels to make a number of quotations. And the final total is still equal to the original one-time price.
Fourth, differences in pricing
According to the nature of the customer, the number of purchase, trading hours, the payment ways, it adopts a different pricing strategy.
Fifth, Comparison Price
It refers to the other side point out quotations of similar commodity of many businesses which is beneficial for one’s own side to establish reference prices, and then make comparisons between these goods traded and similar goods of businesses in terms of performance, quality, service, and other transaction conditions, and as the basis of price for this side.
Sixth, the number traps
He shows their cost of production of goods to the buyer to support the reasonableness of the total price.
Apply situation: it is a multi-commodity trading, the complex cost, no uniform standard method of calculating the cost, or each other is very offensive to use the case.

2.3.3 The strategy in consultation phase
First, negotiation strategy under the conditions of the advantages
a. do not set a precedent
in the negotiations, it means a party who hold the advantage in order to adhere and raise their own terms of trade to use no precedent as reason for refusing to make concessions, let the other side to accept their conditions.
It is a good way to refuse the other party and do not injure the face of the other party.

b. the first bitter; after sweet
first in the negotiations use harsh conditions to cast doubt on the other side, depression of mind, etc., in order to significantly reduce the opponent’s expectations, and then gradually in the actual negotiations, make concessions step by step, to make each other’s psychology have been met and reach a agreement.

c. the price trap
It refers to the party use of market prices increased trends expected, as well as the widespread concerns psychological, to attract the other sides on the price to let them neglect other important provisions.

d. period strategy
It refers to business negotiations, a strong party put forward the time limit to reach an agreement. Over this period, sponsors will withdraw from the negotiations, as to put pressure on the other side to make a decision as soon as possible.

e. diversionary
In order to achieve a particular purpose and needs, one’s own side consciously direct the subject of consultations to irrelevant false momentum, transfer their attention in order to realize their goals

f. the head start
In the start of the negotiations through the use of one’s own strengths and characteristics, in order to seize the psychological advantage, and he seizes the initiative.

Second, negotiation strategy under the conditions of the disadvantages
a. fault-finding
In Business negotiations, in response to each other’s products or related issues, he over and over again deliberately finds problems and the other side’s confidence will drop, and so to make concessions.
The key point is that critical issues should be raised rightly.

b. take a soft approach to meet the other’s hard attitude
When there is a crisis situation in the negotiations or the other side does not make concessions, and he can take a soft approach to meet each other’s hard attitude to avoid facing conflict, so as to achieve the purpose.
The main points: the use of indirect tactics, insisted reasoning

c. woolly-headed
It is defensive strategy is that in the event of adverse situations, pretending to confuse, and use it as cover to paralysis of the will to fight each other in order to achieve the purpose and muddle through.

d. tired tactics
It refers to the negotiations like the marathon, and gradually wear down the opponent’s spirit, to fatigue, to reverse the own side’s disadvantage and passive of the situation, when the opponent exhausted, dizziness brain up, the party may be anti – from defensive to offensive, with the attitude of reasoning, put the views of this side to reduce the other side to accept the conditions.

e. power is limited
It refers to business negotiations, the weaker party was asked to make excessive concessions on certain conditions to the other side. They claim that the mandate on this issue is limited, and have no right to make such a concession to the other party, or established fact can not be changed in order to make the other side give up conditions. f. turn around telling. It refers to the party at a disadvantage, let the other side to pay more for the negotiations, so that they change from passive to active, to turn disadvantage to advantage.

Third, negotiation strategy under the conditions of the balance of power
a. testing the waters
The negotiators intended to propose a number of assumptions, through the other side responses and answers to detect the other side’s intentions and seize the good opportunity to make a deal.

b. first rally; after counter
It refers to after the other side make offer, in no hurry to make a counter-offer, but point out that changes in market situation, or to emphasize the strength and advantages to build the situation in favor of the own side, and then raised prices.
Response: refused, adhering to offer, make a concession carefully

c. first “vertical” post “capture”
It refers to although the party would like to make a deal, but put on a nonchalant way, cover up their eagerness, it seems merely to satisfy the needs of the other party for the negotiations, so that the other side is eager to take the initiative to make concessions.

d. put on foolish, but clever in fact
It refers to a party put on deliberately confused, frightened, hesitant, slow response in order to let the other side down, for sufficient time to achieve the purpose.

e. for the cursory
It refers to the party at the negotiating table, encounters the key issues, or there are insurmountable differences between each other, or to remedy its own mistakes, make an excuse for their own that the decision can not be done by them, to further negotiations by another.

f. fish in troubled waters
It means in the negotiations, he deliberately disturb the normal order, and put many of the problems out once, making it difficult to meet in order to let the other side make mistakes.

g. private contacts
It means through the personal contacts, using a variety of ways to enhance understanding and emotional contact, the establishment of friendship, he can use this way to promote the negotiation.
There are many forms of private exchanges, such as telephone contact, visits, entertainment, and dinner and so on.

h. lubrication strategy
It refers to the negotiators in order to express the feelings of friendship to feed gifts for each other, for a better effect of negotiation, the West humorously referred to it as “lubrication strategy.”
To consider: cultural differences, the value of gifts, gift-giving occasions and rituals.

i. emotional transfer
It refers to when the formal negotiations have difficult impasse or obstacles, the organizers of the negotiations should be conscious to transfer the environment of the negotiations, the atmosphere and forms, so that the other side’s emotion transfer

Presence: Can Someone’s Inner Wounds Stop Them From Being Able To Be Present?

A lot has been said about how important it is to be present, with there being a number of benefits to living in the moment. For one thing, being present will allow one to embrace what is taking place in the now and to fully show up.

Through being able to do this, it will be a lot easier for them to truly appreciate each ‘now’ moment of their life. And, as their attention will be in the now, their ability to perform a task well will also improve.

More at Peace

Embracing the now can also have a positive effect on their health, thanks to the fact that they won’t be going over the stressful things that what took place in the past. So, even if there is a lot of drama going on around them, they won’t add to what is taking place by getting caught up in what happened before.

This will increase the likelihood of them making good decisions and behaving in ways that won’t lead to even more disharmony. Naturally, if there isn’t any drama taking place, being this way is still going to enable them to create a more harmonious and fulfilling life.

Another Area

Being able to fully show up in the now is likely to have a positive effect on their relationships, too. The reason for this is that another person – that’s if they are also present – will be able to feel their presence and this will be very nourishing.

What this illustrates is that being in another person’s company is not enough; their presence also needs to be there. When this happens, one’s body will be there and so will their attention, which will be felt by others.

Charisma

They may find that they have the tendency to influence others or to inspire them in a number of different ways. Once they have finished being in another person’s presence, this person could end up feeling uplifted.

One is then not necessarily going to be someone who gets on stage and pumps people up, but they can still have a big influence. Then again, this could be exactly what they do on a regular basis.

A Pipe Dream

Experiencing life in this way will be the norm for some people, whilst there will be others who have a radically difference experience on this earth. Consequently, there are likely to be a lot of people who are looking for a way to be more present.

If someone is in this position, what that they could do is to do a search online. For example, they could end up typing in ‘how to be more present’ and seeing what information appears.

One Approach

This could be a time when they will come across information that tells them that they need to learn to detach from their thoughts. By no longer getting caught up in them, they will be able to embrace the now.

Furthermore, they may be told that they need to make sure that they breathe into their stomach, not their chest. This will allow them to take in more air, and by focusing on their breath, it will get them out of their head and into their body – the part of them that lives in the now.

A New Life

Applying what they have learnt and making sure that they practice every day will probably allow them to become more present. As the weeks and months go by, their life could radically improve and the people in their life could even feel that there is more of them.

At the same time, although one may notice that they have changed; what could also become clear is that they are experiencing a lot of resistance. Not only this, they may see that they are denying how they feel.

Another Approach

After realising this, one might take a deeper look into why it is such a challenge for them to embrace the now. What may happen is that they will come cross information that tells them that focusing on their mind is not enough; what they also need to do is to look into what is taking place in their body.

The view that could be put forward is that what is taking place in their mind is often a reflection of what is taking place deeper down. Changing what is taking place in their body is then going to be a way for their mind to settle down.

Calling out

One way of looking at this would be to say that the reason why one is finding it hard to embrace the now is because of the split-off parts of themselves that want to be heard. These parts that exist in their body are crying out to be heard and, until these parts are acknowledged, they will continue to call out.

The question is: what are these parts and why do they exist? Each part that is within their body can relate to a time when they felt overwhelmed, and their mind would have disconnected from a part of them in order to stop the experience from wiping them out.

A Deeper Look

There may have been moments in their adult life when they felt overwhelmed and there may have been moments during their early years when they felt the same way. It could go back even further, though, and what they went though in a past life could be playing a part.

What took place in the past will then be over, but their body will be carrying the emotional effects of what took place. Thus, unless they get in touch with these parts and integrate them, they will continue to consume ones attention and make it incredibly difficult for them to embrace the now.

Awareness

Taking this into account, if one finds it hard to embrace the now, they can see this as a sign that part of being is trying to communicate with them. This part of them doesn’t want to be changed or fixed; it just wants to be heard.

The masculine energy of doing is not needed here, what is needed is the feminine energy of being. Surrendering to what is taking place and allowing these split-off parts to speak out can be difficult if one is carrying a lot of pain or if they find it hard to connect to their body (feelings).

This is why external support can make such a big difference. A therapist or a healer can hold the space so that one can go where they wouldn’t go by themselves.